Parents

A parent is a caregiver of the offspring in their own species. In humans, a parent is the caretaker of a child (where "child" refers to offspring, not necessarily age). A biological parent is a person whose gamete resulted in a child, a male through the sperm, and a female through the ovum.

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Parents . Money

If parents are financially well-off, is it acceptable for them to insist on monthly financial contributions from their sons, especially knowing that this requirement causes financial hardship for the sons?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 2 days ago

When parents are in need, it puts a responsibility on their earning sons to support them. Spending on the parents is obligatory not just recommended. When parents expect financial assistance from their sons, it means that they are in need of that assistance. You can not claim that your parents are well off and don’t need your financial assistance as far as they ask you to assist them. You must do your best to assist them even if you have your own financial challenges. Best place to spend is to assist your parents then your relatives then other needy and deserving persons.

Wassalam.

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Parents

What should I do if one of my parents strongly wants me to pursue a career I don't desire, and they become upset when I express my feelings about it?

You must keep respecting your parents in every situation but your career is your own choice and no one can force you on a career against your own feelings. You must maintain a balance between your basic right to pursue your selected career, and keeping your parents feel respected and never cause them feel ignored by you or been looked down by people.

Wassalam.

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Income . Parents

Am I obligated to share details about my income with my parents if they inquire, even if I prefer not to disclose that information?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 3 weeks ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, you are not obliged to share details about this with anyone, and it is none of anyone's concern as to how much you earn.

A parent might be concerned about your spending, or if you are being paid fairly, or something like that, so communication on that level is beneficial, and you should not be that sensitive as well.

And Allah knows best.

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Parents . Divorce . Love . Du'a (Supplication)

Can you please provide me with a Dua that will help improve my parents' relationship, as they have been fighting a lot and talking about divorce lately?

1. Azaan أذان loudly makes the house more blessed and drives away evil from the house.

2. Reciting Sura Yaseen every morning is very useful in making the house more peaceful and more blessed.

3. Repeating Salawaat and Estighfaar is very useful.

4. Giving Sadaqa.

5. Repeating (YA GHFOURU YA WADOUD).

Wassalam.

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Parents . Marriage . Conversion to Islam . Illegitimacy

Is a person born to non-believers and later converting to Shia Islam considered illegitimate if their parents did not have a formal marriage due to the societal norms in their community?

The Hadeeth from Imam Jafar Al-Sadiq (AS) says: Every community who differentiate between marriage and fornication, their marriage is lawful. كل قوم يعرفون النكاح من السفاح فنكاحهم جائز . (Al-Tahtheeb; 7:475).

The marriage between non Muslim parents according to their society is valid and you are not an illegitimate.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Death . God (Allah) . Du'a (Supplication)

Can we perform good deeds, such as building a well, after the death of our non-believing parents, so that they can still accumulate good deeds?

Yes it is permissible as far as the deceased were not enemies of Allah (SWT).

Wassalam.

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Family . Parents . Domestic violence

How can I effectively separate myself from parents who are abusive and not practicing?

You should never separate yourself from your parents, but you should be away from their sinful acts, keeping your relationship with them as good as you can. Even if your parent were non believers, you must keep treating them nicely as parents but never share with them or support their wrong faith or sinful acts.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Engagement . Love

What should I do if my in-laws mistreated my parents, causing them to want to end my engagement, but my fiance and I are unwilling to give up because of our love for each other?

You should tolerate the mistreatment if any and try to avoid any situation or act which instigates unpleasant relationship with your in laws.

Try to explain to your parents that you and your fiancée are in agreement and his family mistreatment should not ruin your engagement.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Prophet Muhammad

Did Prophet Muhammad (s) perform the Hajj pilgrimage for his parents?

The parents of the Prophet Muhammad (SAWA) were from the best believers of their time and both of them did perform their Hajj. The Proohet (SAWA) encouraged Muslims to perform J=Hajj on behalf of their percents who did not perform Hajj or in general as we read in many Hadeeths. Performing recommended Hajj on behalf of the parents is highly recommended. No doubt, the Prophet (SAWA) did perform recommended Hajj on behalf of his parents.

Wassalam.

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Parents . Mother . Divorce

I am 14 years old and my parents are getting divorced. My mother wants me to stay with her and she keeps reminding me about the power of a mother's Du'a so that I would not hurt her feelings. How should I choose which parent to stay with?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 6 months ago

I am sorry that you are having to go through this at your age. Firstly, you should not have to choose to stay with any parent. Being pressured to stay with one parent or another today constitutes as emotional abuse. If you have a good relationship with your father, then you are not under any obligation to stay with your mother. The fact that she is using religion to threaten you and coerce you into staying with her is disturbing, and implies possibly a history of emotional manipulation. There are now many helpful videos on youtube on how to handle emotional manipulation by parents, such as 'The Cra**y Childhood Fairy' and Jerry Wise. Emotional manipulation can damage a child for life, so you need to learn to make sense of what is happening to you and how you can handle it effectively in a way that maintains your self-protection and healthy mental and emotional growth.

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Parents . Istikhara . Marriage Proposal

Can I reject a boy for marriage even if my parents did Istikhara and it came out positive? Can I pray for a better proposal in my Dua?

Your marriage is invalid with out your full acceptance and agreeing. Your parents' Istekhara is for them to agree or not, but it does not bind you. You can go for Istekhara yourself or jointly with your parents if you are not clear and need guidance through an Istekhara.

You can pray for better proposal in your Du'a.

'Wassalam.

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Parents . Children . Sexual

What is the obligation when a child unintentionally witnesses the parents engaging in an intimate act? If required, what type and amount of compensation, Kafara or Sadqa, should be given?

Bismihi ta'ala

There is no kaffarah or anything to be paid, but there are two very important thing everyone must always remember.

1. Parents, or anyone being intimate must secure their privacy first, making sure there will be no intrusion, and have absolute certainty that nobody can or will be able to see or hear them. Even infant children should be away from their parents, and we have narrations from Ahlul Bayt (a.s.) that strongly censure parents being intimate with the presence of even a baby.

2. Whenever someone is living with other people, he/she must always remember to announce themselves, knock doors, make a noise, say "Ya Allah", to inform others of their presence, and so on. This is to avoid seeing somebody without their clothes, or in a situation that they are uncomfortable in, etc.

In the case something happens unintentionally, it should be forgotten, not mentioned, and just be stricter in observing these two points.

And Allah knows best