Family

189081

How can a wealthy Muslim effectively support family, friends, non-believers, and strangers facing financial difficulties while maintaining a balanced approach?

Sayyed Mohammad Al-Musawi, Sayyed Mohammad al-Musawi is originally from Iraq and heads up the World Ahlul Bayt Islamic League in London. Other than being involved in various humanitarian projects, he frequently responds to... Answered 3 days ago

Supporting needy relatives is very important and it come before supporting other needy friends or strangers. The Hadeeth states: There is no charity (on people) when your own relative is in need. لا صدقة وذو رحم محتاج.

After being sure that your own relatives are not in need, you can help your needy friends and others.

Wassalam.

185759

Sunni . Family . Sayyid . Zakat . Poor

What alternative financial support can we offer to our impoverished relatives, considering that Zakat is not permissible within our Sunni Sayyid family?

Zakat from Non Sayyed is not permissible to Poor Sayyed, but it is permissible from a Sayyed to a poor Sayyed. If you are a Sayyed, you can give your Zakat to your Sayyed relatives.

We should give to our relatives more than Khums and Zakat to see that their life is with out financial hardships just like our own life as much as we can.

Wassalam.

184886

Family . Woman . Conversion to Islam . Marriage

What role does my family have in helping a convert woman get married when I am the only Muslim in a family of Christian or atheist background, with no surviving male relatives and insufficient financial independence?

Amina Inloes, Amina Inloes is originally from the US and has a PhD in Islamic Studies from the University of Exeter on Shi'a hadith. She is the program leader for the MA Islamic Studies program at the... Answered 3 months ago

This can sometimes be a difficult situation to navigate among Muslims who handle marriage through interactions between families.

In this situation, you will most likely meet your prospective husband outside of the circle of your own family. (For example, daily life, socializing, Islamic groups or events, online)

In that case, the role of your family here is ethical and social. A prospective husband should make an effort get to know your family and be respectful towards them. If your father were alive, it would be respectful and good form for him to seek your father's blessing for the marriage.

Of course, if your family is hostile towards Islam, or there are other issues, it may be that there will be no extensive relationship between him and them.

However, if a prospective husband does not want to meet your family at all, or is disrespectful, that is a red flag.

As for actual wedding arrangements, or who will pay for a wedding, this is something you, your prospective husband, and your families will have to sort out.

Sometimes, weddings can be a challenge for converts, especially in a marriage between a convert woman and a born-Muslim man. It can be awkward if the born-Muslim brings a large extended family to celebrate, and the convert seems alone. Conversely, the two families may disagree about which wedding customs are important to them.

On the other hand, in a marriage between two converts (who both do not come from Muslim cultures), it can be difficult to decide how to celebrate, since there is no cultural precedent for Muslim weddings.

Some converts sidestep this by skipping a wedding altogether, but many people regret this over time, so it is good to have a suitable wedding - even if it is simple and inexpensive - which is in line with both of your financial and social circumstances. A mosque wedding may also be an option, since it is both public and inexpensive. If the man does not want to have any wedding at all, that is also a red flag.

182413

Family . Parents . Domestic violence

How can I effectively separate myself from parents who are abusive and not practicing?

You should never separate yourself from your parents, but you should be away from their sinful acts, keeping your relationship with them as good as you can. Even if your parent were non believers, you must keep treating them nicely as parents but never share with them or support their wrong faith or sinful acts.

Wassalam.

153066

Responsibility . Husband . Family

Is it mandatory in Islam for daughters-in-law to take care of their husband's family, including doing household chores?

It is not obligatory on daughters-in-law to serve their husband's family, but it is good to do things which help your husband to be a good son for his parents as much as can. Kindness is always good but Islam does allows insulting or hurting others under any circumstances. Be kind as much as you can and remember the reward of kindness as well as the results in this life as every daughter-in-law will be a mother-in-law in the future.

Wassalam.

182276

Wedding . Family . Woman . Hijab . Man . Song

Can men and women in Hijab sit together as a whole family during a wedding celebration and engage in singing songs without using music?

It is not allowed at all. Singing itself is not permissible in any case even if the person is alone, what about with other gender. Family gatherings must be away from any sinful act.

Wassalam.

182078

Family . Scholars . Qur'anic Exegesis (Tafsir) . Qur'an

Is it justified for me to seek further information and consult scholars or Tafsir of the Quran before accepting Islamic facts shared by my close family members?

Yes

169030

Marriage . Family . Eid al-Fitr

Is it permissible to have a marriage between Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha, particularly if it is the first marriage in the family, such as the marriage of the eldest son or daughter?

Yes it is permissible.

‘Wassalam.

167050

Husband . Family

Is it mandatory in Islam for the daughter-in-law to take care of her in-laws and fulfill household responsibilities?

Zaid Alsalami, Shaykh Dr Zaid Alsalami is an Iraqi born scholar, raised in Australia. He obtained a BA from Al-Mustafa University, Qom, and an MA from the Islamic College in London. He also obtained a PhD from... Answered 11 months ago

Bismihi ta'ala

No, it is not mandatory, and she does not need to do any household responsibilities for them, unless it is out of her own good-will and her kindness.

Her focus should be on her new life with herself and her husband, and her only duty to her in-laws is respect them like her own parents, honour them, treat them well, but does not need to do anything she does not want to.

Her husband and her in-laws should of course know what Islam says, and should accommodate to this as well.

And Allah knows best

164606

Family . Father . Conversion to Islam . Marriage

Does a Muslim Pakistani man still need to seek permission from my non-Muslim family, including my father, if I, a revert lady, am interested in marrying him?

Bismihi ta'ala

Yes, whether the female is Muslim born or converted to Islam, he will still need to follow the correct shar'i and traditional Islamic custom of process of proposal and everything else. Involving family in the marriage proposal is extremely important, and so is seeking their blessings and happiness.

And Allah knows best

163141

Cheating . Family . Engagement . Girl

Is it permissible for me to inform the family of a Muslim girl if a guy, who has been engaged to her for 3-4 months, is cheating on her?

No unless you have concrete evidence that he is committing Haraam which can destroy the life of the girl, then you can give them the evidence and leave them to verify and decide.

Wassalam.

158390

Mother . Father . Family

My mother and I currently reside in a European country with access to Halal food. However, my father wishes us to move to a less favorable country for the sake of family unity. Considering that my mother can provide better for me, what should I decide?

Rebecca Masterton, Dr Rebecca Masterton graduated with a BA in Japanese Language and Literature; an MA in Comparative East Asian and African Literature and a PhD in Islamic literature of West Africa. She has been... Answered 1 year ago

Family unity is of vital importance. It sounds like there may be other issues here - more than that of halal food - possibly issues of balance of power between your parents. Why would your mother not want to be with your father? Is your father respected in the family? Do you have a close bond with him?